Is it a micro-intrusion to strike up a conversation with a stranger whom you fancy?
I would agree it is an intrusion if it's made clear that it is unwanted, but how do I know if the woman in the park who has made eye contact with me a few times, smiled, and is sitting there reading a book will feel like I am *intruding* if I walk up, say hello, and attempt to initiate a conversation that I would want to end with a date?
I think there's a problem with assuming that all attempts to "hit-on" (to use a colloquial phrase with some odd literal implications) someone is an intrusion, even a micro-intrusion, of someones space.
I mean, until you are given an indication that it is unwanted, are you (or more accurately, am I, a male) supposed to expect any advances to be unwanted?
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Date: 2014-06-03 03:10 am (UTC)I would agree it is an intrusion if it's made clear that it is unwanted, but how do I know if the woman in the park who has made eye contact with me a few times, smiled, and is sitting there reading a book will feel like I am *intruding* if I walk up, say hello, and attempt to initiate a conversation that I would want to end with a date?
I think there's a problem with assuming that all attempts to "hit-on" (to use a colloquial phrase with some odd literal implications) someone is an intrusion, even a micro-intrusion, of someones space.
I mean, until you are given an indication that it is unwanted, are you (or more accurately, am I, a male) supposed to expect any advances to be unwanted?